I have a happy post.
Our dentist whom we LOVE can’t handle my kids anymore. He doesn’t offer sedation for children. At all. Take my two autistic four year olds, put them in his small office with no laughing gas, and the whole building is in for a rude awakening. My husband and I will still go to him- he’s wonderful. But my kids need
to be knocked over the head with a frying pan sedation.
So I called every dental office listed in our local autism directory— most of them DO have experience with patients with autism, but put them all completely under in a surgical atmosphere. My kids don’t have cavities or dental issues— they just need cleanings— a little sedation is fine, thanks.
This was a disaster waiting to happen…..
1) I couldn’t get the twins their cleanings right away— they needed us to have a first appointment (consult) first so I have to take them AND take them back…..
2) It’s in a ridiculous campus of buildings — had I not studied the campus map on the internet I would have been ridiculously lost.
3) Parking is a nightmare– not for normal people, but for a mom with two behaviorally challenged four year olds? ugh.
4) I don’t have a double stroller big enough for these people that fits in my car. These people were going to HAVE to walk. Or at least one of them— I brought a single stroller with me.
5) It’s the dentist. Nuff said.
But……. dance with joy with me please.
1) I found the building without driving around and around and around.
2) Valet parking, usually reserved for labor and delivery patients, agreed to valet my car. Worth every penny.
3) Both kids eagerly walked to the bathroom where Wilma and I went potty and Fred got a diaper change and then eagerly walked with me to the office.
4) While I filled out 15 minutes worth of paperwork (no joke), both kids quietly and happily watched Spongebob on the tv. Totally amazing in and of itself.
5) When we walked back and Fred screamed “oh no!” he got over it very quickly and walked to a corner and pooped. If he’s comfy enough in the office to poop immediately, it’s a good sign.
6) They patiently made it through the teeth counting and poking around and all my questions. A Bit of screaming, but that’s to be expected.
7) They will give us FREE sedation at each appointment. Our insurance doesn’t cover it but they won’t charge us. No kidding?
8) We left with toothbrushes, stickers, and appointments for cleaning for two separate Mondays in Jan and Feb (I’ll leave the opposite twin home with a sitter).
9) They went back with me to the bathroom where Fred got another diaper change.
10) They WALKED to the lobby— I never unfolded the stroller— Wilma did NOT flop down, refuse to move, scream, whine, or cry.
11) The valet drove the car up, I paid and tipped, and he STAYED with me while I got both kids in carseats and HE put the stroller in the trunk.
12) Nobody was crying or screaming, so we went to target next. Wilma picked out more panties. Why? Because starting next Friday the 23rd NO MORE PULLUPS except at night. Her teachers agree that over winter break we should do panties all the time and then when she comes back to school just send lots of panties and changes of clothes and let’s hope for the best— she’s about 80% trained now—– NO #2 in the potty yet, and NO #1 in the potty unless I tell her to (she never tells me), but I’m telling her enough that she’s staying dry ENOUGH.
I’m in shock! This was the first time in ages that I’ve had a successful trip out with BOTH kids that wasn’t at walmart or target (where I can throw them in the cart). Not only was it successful, it was the DENTIST– which could have been soooooo horrific. He remembered past dentist appointments and freaked a little, but calmed down so incredibly quickly. GO FRED AND WILMA!