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April update

I don’t blog enough.  Mostly because 100% of my time is spent coordinating the psychologist, the developmental pediatrician, the outreach worker from the Center for Autism, the behavior specialist from the county board of DD, the intervention specialists at both schools (IEPs, FBAs, constant emails), and now a new psychiatrist, along with the usual regular doctors and dentists and errands and chores and such.  The other 100% of my time is spent dealing with behaviors and actually working with my kids (or playing with them, or reading to them, or wiping their butts….).  The other 100% of my time is spent working for an income.  300% of my time is accounted for, leaving no time for blogging.  My ideal would be to keep this site updated daily, but…. yeah.

I was going to post about how one twin had a horrific enco day two days ago (10+ poops in her underpants— ok after the first couple it was pullups the rest of the day, but I still had to buy yet another pack of underpants) and with the other twin SIBS (self injurious behaviors— he bites himself)  are back (4 times in the past week) and we had some massive meltdowns, but nah, I’d rather point out happy stuff about the walk and the movie from last week. Two steps back, half a step forward…… spring break till monday—- there will be at least one GOOD day between now and Monday- I’m determined.

So here’s the good news:

Taking them to their first movie (Muppets Most Wanted) was great—- everytime they lost interest we let them play with an ipad or phone for a few minutes. or go to the bathroom. or play an arcade game. I left the movie at least 3 times that I remember– but MOST of the time we were in the theater and watching. well they watched 2 thirds of it between all the ipad breaks. I loved when Wilma stood up at the beginning and said “I don’t want to watch this anymore” but then with LOTS of encouragement made it through the whole darn thing. We were the the only ones watching that movie so we took stand up and stretch breaks too. They were OKAY with the lights and sound— 6 months ago it would have been a massive problem. They both lost it a little right when we got home– no shock there. As for the movie, I think I liked it more than the kids did—- spoiler alert— don’t read on if you don’t want to know……………. Lady Gaga, Tina Fey, Salma Hayeck, Josh Groban—- LOVED all the cameos.

Right on the heels of the movie theater trip I have more good news……… most of you don’t know that EVERY SINGLE TIME we take a walk together as a family (and it has to be all 4 of us because the last time I took a walk alone with the kids it was seriously unsafe when he went into multibite mode and I didn’t have enough hands to put her in the stroller while he was off biting strangers because she lay down and refused to walk in the middle of the street— never mind…..)—- EVERY SINGLE TIME we take a walk together as a family lately, it’s gone well— up until it hasn’t. That is, we walk, we stop and talk to friends, the kids have little mini dramas over who gets to sit in the one special needs stroller because even though only one kid has a physical problem with walking a distance, the other one just falls apart from overstimulation….. as we talk to people and the kids play it’s great— and then whenever we’re almost home whether it’s 20 minutes in, or an hour in, THEN the double meltdown begins in all it’s glory and the biting, hitting, screaming ensues. EVERY walk ends up with us walking in sweating and 3 out of the 4 of us in tears (hubby is a man— no crying there– lol). We keep trying to take a walk together because it goes so well for MOST of the walk and we know that SOMEDAY we’ll have a walk that is 100% fine. TODAY IT WAS 100% fine. No permanent scars here, folks. Could be Wilma’s med adjustment, the new supplements we’ve added, the behavior charting…… all I know is that we took a walk together as a family and smiled the whole time— THIS is news. May this be a beautiful spring/summer with lots of GOOD family walks!

Our First Movie

Tomorrow for the first time ever, my kids are going to watch a movie. The most we’ve ever been able to get through at home is 20 minutes (at a time) of Tangled on tv. They’ve never been through a whole movie at home, and have NEVER been to a movie theater. Our behavior intervention specialist from the county wants to help us expand our world and help us go places we’ve never been— we’ve never been to a movie theater because the following could happen—- the noise/ lights could throw Fred into multi-bite mode before the movie even starts. Wilma could stand up 15 minutes in and demand they change the channel because she wants to know what else is on. Either of them could stand up and bolt. With one kid, fine— but with both— one kid bolts and the other kid flops on the floor refusing to move and screaming like a maniac. For something like this, I certainly wouldn’t try it by myself with them, but we hadn’t been ready yet to try it even as a whole family— this is a good excursion for our specialist to help us. Wish us LOTS of luck tomorrow—– hoping it goes well and we see a good majority of the movie—- we’re seeing Muppets Most Wanted. I’m expecting lots of breaks and at some point Fred in the lobby playing with the ipad because he’s just DONE, while Wilma has to stand up in the aisle but hopefully can make it through a good chunk of the movie.

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